I read an article recently called “The Golden Rule”
Golden Rule 1: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’ Matthew 22:39
Golden Rule 2: ‘For you will be treated as you treat others.’ Matthew 7:2
To make the Golden Rule 1 part of your daily life, you must try to do these things for others:
(1) Trust them. Without trust there can be no real relationship. Secretary of State Henry L. Stimson said, ‘The chief lesson I’ve learned in a long life is that the only way to make a man trustworthy is by trusting him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust.’ Is it always easy? No, especially when it’s someone you don’t know very well. Nevertheless, that’s Christ’s Golden Rule. As you strive to invest confidence in others just as you’d like it to be invested in you, remember that the person who trusts others will always lose less than the person who distrusts them. (2) Thank them. Human relations expert Donald Laird said, ‘Always help people increase their self-esteem…There’s hardly a higher compliment you can pay an individual than helping him to be useful and to find satisfaction in his usefulness.’ How do you do that? By letting them know you appreciate their efforts. By making a point of praising them in the presence of those closest to them. As Broadway producer Billy Rose observed: ‘It’s hard for a fellow to keep a chip on his shoulder if you allow him to take a bow.’ (3) Value them. Surveys confirm that 70 percent of workers who leave their jobs do so because they don’t feel valued. That’s an indictment of how poorly some leaders treat employees! There isn’t a person in the world who doesn’t want to be appreciated. Don’t you?
So make a habit of practicing these Golden Rules.
(1) If you’ve a problem with someone, go and see them privately. (2) If someone else has a problem with someone and comes to you, send them to the person in question. (3) If someone won’t go to them, say, ‘Let’s go see him/her together.’ (4) Be careful how you interpret others – It’s too easy to misinterpret intentions. (5) If it’s confidential, don’t tell. If anyone else comes to you in confidence, Do not tell, unless they’re going to harm themselves, harm someone else, or a child has been physically or sexually abused. (6) Don’t let others manipulate you. And don’t let others try to manipulate others through you. Most importantly Do not manipulate others. (7) When in doubt, just say so. Always let your answer either be a YES or a NO.
Those eight rules can be reduced to the one Golden Rule: ‘Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you.’ Good marriages, business relationships and friendships are based on these Golden Rules Jesus gave us.
One final thought: ‘Abstain from every form of evil’ (1 Thessalonians 5:22 NKJV). If people could construe that you’re taking advantage of them even after you’ve had a chance to explain your motives, you may need to rethink your idea.
I pray that you will be blessed and encouraged by this, feel free to share this on and save it for your own reference to come back to when you may need a little reminder of these Golden Rules.